Nature of Men & The Americanized Minds of Woman

Men cheat but guess what women do to but this isn't to be a basic typical factual reason why we do it's more of a could this be hypothetical explanation on it? Some understanding really. Go back way way way way yes farther YES EVEN FARTHER back to wine parties & air moses 11s low tops were the dopest of things. Most men from the low flea covered sheep peddlers to the richest of kings had multiple wives and it was excepted. Not a taboo thing as is of today's society. Read your bible as y'all claim to know, some of the key characters had mad bitches and we look up to or continuously tell their story to instill on our children. Not saying the stories are what doing it but lets be real what happened to that lifestyle til now? AMERICA! Rules & control. Look at these untouched African societies for example. Still have many wives because it is in their culture based off human nature and women accept it because of that. Do they complain and get jealous? No they surely don't. Yes I've been told women are adaptable and I believe that. They allow it there but here in America the American dream make it one wife, one husband, child, dog in a white picket fenced home ITS NOT! With women thinking more off emotion you can understand when it comes to that "dream" and attachment its very focused on to come to light. But rules & control cant stop nature. Look at the animal kingdom. The alpha male dominates the pack and has his choice out the females among him. Our job is to reproduce to keep our lineage going. So by nature we will be prone to going after others that's why yes sometimes its just for sex other times a whole nother relationship is born. Women grew and adapted to only accepting ONE! One with no sharing cause it's instilled in their heads that that is how things are supposed to be, to be a successful family *mind you some are actually kept together cause the happiness he doesn't get from her it comes from another source and he just stays cause it's comfortable*. Men try to maintain, some can and are able to, yes urges occur but we maintain. Others can't help their nature and go off them *cue every Maury episode ever invented*. That's why polygamy is banned in the US. Our country laws are based off the bible yes the same bible that allowed such so it's very contradictory. If it wasn't banned, the whole side chick, 2 girlfriend, couple mistresses lifestyle which is so hidden & frowned upon would be accepted things would be so different men can be okay with exploring the true human nature.Women would adapt and only have a problem with time and favoritism over why you over there with that bitch doing her "dirty". Why you think most side chicks accept their role get what they want and keep it moving? They know you got a girl , they know you just getting most likely sex from them but they satisfied cause you are technically hers too. They accepted that fact and keeping it moving without any problems until they feel more power needs to be given to them. This post is not saying it should be allowed for what is now called cheating but to say look at how things were and why maybe this is why things happen.

Guest Blog: Changing "Him" by @MsLeeTaughtYou

Pick your battles…

“You can’t change people.” “You can’t change a cheater.” “You can’t make anyone do anything they don’t want to.” These creeds are preached to us on the daily, so why do we still make a conscious effort to defy them? Satisfaction? Badge of glory? Women try to challenge these laws of the land all the time and where do we end up?

We will take ourselves through the pits of hell and high water to achieve happiness or at least appear that way. We much rather force something than accept a situation. We will pick up the most ratchet thug and want him to give up his thuggish ways, so we will devise plans a, b, c and jump through rings of fire to make him conform to our wants. We want so bad to make him worth the trouble that we forget…. You can’t change people. 9 times out of 10 the stress we go through behind a man is because we are so focused on trying to change him. We fail to realize that it’ll NEVER work, he’s a grown man. Solution? Try growing with him, or let it go.

Change. We make an attempt to remold men like they aren’t grown and their foundation isn’t already laid. Then the tears and headache follow when the mission is failed. Let’s look at the cheater. We “take” him from his misses, yet expect him to make us his one and only THEN have the nerve to be mad when there’s another ‘other’ and want to act out scenes from Waiting to Exhale. Cut it out. You can’t change a cheater. YOU chose to deal with that, so why are you mad at HIM for being him?! Why do you want to change him now when it was okay before? You knew what you were getting yourself into. Women want everyone else to “accept me for me”, but we are steady fighting, crying, acting out and carrying on to change someone else? If he’s content, he’s content and there isn’t a thing we can do about it. Try to change him and you will end up mad every time the outcome doesn’t go your way.

Developing. As you bond, of course you’ll notice some things you don’t like about him and vice versa. Relationships consist of a lot of give and take, compromising, and improvement. When there is a disruption, discussing whatever the issue is and both parties partaking in a way to right the wrong is growth. People have to WANT to improve themselves first. You can’t make anybody do anything they don’t want to. So the key is HE has to want it and it doesn’t matter how bad you want it for him. Not you, him. Once he’s ready, he’ll allow it. This is NOT straight up changing someone. It’s bettering them, building together upon what has already been established. I better you, you better me. When things are done cohesively, good things haphazardly occur anyhow.

If you can’t change a situation, you change the way you view/handle it. So when we hit the crossroads in relationships, we have to make one of two choices because changing someone is just NOT an option. A. Deal with it. Or B. Exit stage left. If you take route A, you have to ask yourself can you handle it? If you choose to deal, that means you are adjusting YOU as well, not just them. And if/when it crashes you CANNOT be upset with HIM. This is your doing… Route B. Well, no explanation is necessary but don’t dub him “his ain’t shit ass” when it’s all said and done. Again, that was your doing.

Doug's Dope Tracks: The Passion

After the Wayne playlist I dropped it struck me DO A R&B JOINT FOR THE PEOPLE! So I did but it was tough what vibe, what message, how many babies did I want to be born? One thing I know is I wanted it to be real lusty. Something to chill to but at the same time throw on get them panties wet. Its not a greatest R&B tracks put together type playlist that's to easy but hard to do at the same time cause you will always leave something off. Certain artist songs not on it cause hell I put a specific Dream song or Kellz song on here I would need to put damn near they whole album. Its not whats exclusive either. Just from beginning to end collection of songs we know and loved some older than others. From start to finish its a great story, pay attention to the song titles.This is part 1, part 2 coming next month. Download link below...

P.S. My favorite parts are how track 7 goes into 8 & how 15 goes into 16 LAWD!!!

The Passion: Download tracklist below

Tracklist:
1. Dont Say Shit - Emanny
2. Feeling U, Feeling Me (interlude) - A. Keys
3. Unthinkable (Im Ready) - A. Keys
4. Upstairs - Trey Songz
5. Secret Garden - Al B. Sure, Barry White, El Debarge
6. Take You Down - Chris Brown
7. Can You Handle It? - Usher
8. Weekend Lover - Jamie Foxx
9. Freak'in Me - Jamie Foxx
10. Slow - Jamie Foxx
11. Scratchin' Me Up - Trey Songz
12. The Zoo - R. Kelly
13. Imagine That - R. Kelly
14. Diary - A. Keys
15. Storm - Jamie Foxx
16. In The Kitchen - R. Kelly
17. Play House - Trey Songz
18. Teach Me - Miguel
19. Feel the Funk - Immature
20. Mars vs Venus - Usher
21. Mirror - Ne-Yo
22. Sex Therapy - Robin Thicke
23. Arch n' Point - Miguel
24. Still Scratchin' Me Up - Trey Songz
25. Say It - Ne-Yo

Black People VS. Niggas

Well said Mr. Rock.... Well said.

Guest Blog: Snooping by @MsLeeTaughtYou

Phone on silent, face down, but the lucent light is aglow when some activity occurs. Is it a text? Is someone calling? Who? Do they know he’s with me? Is it some bitch? Does he not see his phone? Why hasn’t he picked it up? Does he know who/what it is? Or is that he just doesn’t want me to see? What’s the secret? Who/What is he hiding? You forcibly peel your focus off this ever so amazing yet detrimental gadget and now set it on him. He’s all calm, cool, collected, not fazed, completely oblivious and tentatively watching the movie you picked for the night. He slowly lifts your head off his shoulder and tells you he’s stepping to the bathroom. He leaves the room and what do you notice? His phone hasn’t moved…
THIS is your opportunity to answer all your questions. But then there’s the ultimate one, if it IS some hoe WHAT DO I DO? So many other inquiries jolt. If I do find something I don’t like, how do I bring it up? I can’t just say I was snooping, he wouldn’t trust me. It’s not that I don’t trust him, I was just… curious but I can’t say that….. What kind of girlfriend/boo would I be? He creeps in and startles all your thoughts. He gets back in his spot on the couch and pulls you to him without a single care in the world. It feels good and just as you try to concentrate on the movie that you haven’t watched since the opening credits, your mind brings you back to that damned iPhone. I should have picked it up and put my mind at ease! Thoughts as such are so damaging to relationships..
If you go looking for something, TRUST me you WILL FIND IT. It could be the most innocent of conversations but just because you’re intent on finding something, anything will gratify your suspicions. THIS LEADS TO TROUBLE. To solve all, don’t snoop! Don’t make a text to Amber about homework code words for “I’m coming through later.” Don’t make a convo with his dudes a plot to cheat. The concept is simple:  If you want to know, ASK. If you feel like the answer isn’t truth, evaluate why you feel as such (perfect bonding situation) but DON’T SNOOP! Snooping is a catch 22. You snoop and find something, now you have to bring it up (snitch on yourself) and risk losing all trust or whatever it is between you two. You snoop and don’t find anything, so you dig deeper to find every bit of nothing then you’re left beating yourself up with guilt knowing that you could’ve trusted him the whole time. Conclusion: DON’T SNOOP! If you can’t find the trust, remove yourself. And if he hasn’t done anything to induce this suspicion, it’s not him. Food for thought.