The Woman Before You

"If I wanted to be with her, I would be with her." Great man once said that and it's very close to every bit of the truth you'll hear. I'm with you though. Not her.. she way over there. Ok, she might be right here by my side but that's about it. She ain't my side she help me judge them hoes but I can also tell you she not your enemy. Yes, ladies there will always be a chick that has been there before you in your mans life but what that have to do with what he's trying to build with you? Let's say he hasn't even began to build with you, that still puts you as the one he chose. Hell, if he hasn't chose you just quite yet guess what you're the one he is very much so interested in. If not common sense says they'd be married with kids in that white picket fence while you wouldn't even be a memory to miss. The opportunity was there when they met before you became known to existence so if they never took it or felt the need for it be thankful that place is now yours for the taking. So..... take it. Love it. Enjoy it but don't let your insecurities get you all defensive to attack his mental and emotion over someone not get the same kind of day that is yours in his life. Don't get emotional and tell yourself that she is when in fact it isn't. When in fact there bond is on a different scale compared to the bond he has hopes of gaining with you. So you say "Well, I need to meet her. I need to feel her out. These women are out here sneaky and I know sneaky when I see it." Ahhhhhhh... uhhhhh... hmmmm..... NO! "O.. well something must be going on if I can't be around her when I want to be." Uhhh... ok? You see it's not for you to be around her and damn sure is not no NEED to meet her. The NEED to, the self stimulating thought of the optimistic outlook that you do KNOW what you don't, the result of feeling the negative when all those thoughts are blocked because it's in the end not a priority of yours to tell him who he needs to be around as the new comer to his life compared to the life that has actually been there is just wrong. YOU AREN'T EVEN YOU IN HIS LIFE TO DISMISS WHO THEY BEEN TO HIM. Refer back to the opening sentence.
Patience is a virtue and calmness with a clear head can see that through. Stay calm and the patience will allow you to bask in everything you ask for and more with that man. Would you rather argue about what that chick may be like? Even though you'll say yes because in the end that matters to fully understand him when it really doesn't. You're there for him and she is to just for difference reasons and both are gaining different results in your interactions with that man. You just making things move slower for the overall picture of what can become "Y'all" worrying about what may be "them". REFER AGAIN TO THE OPENING SENTENCE. Look when time comes to be around the women of his life that were there prior to you it'll come. Can't for that. It'll be too awkward and you can't ask why or believe it's cause something is truly up even thought you will. It's forced. Not nowhere close to genuine. Once spirits naturally float around each other a greater sense of understanding can be harnessed among beings. All I can say is the woman before is before you and on course to last after you if you can't maintain focus on you're there now to fulfill the duties his heart need that he's not asking her to provide.